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Work and Family
To work or not to work: that seems to be the question. Drawn to the idea of pursuing our passions and dreams, we strive to be "do it all" women, and often juggle multiple full-time roles as students, professionals, partners, and moms. But can we always have our cake and eat it too? What happens when the work and family balancing act proves to be too much? Which one gets priority?
Oh the guilt!
Meet U.S. based Namisha Sarin in "To Stay Or Not To Stay," after making the difficult choice to go back to work when her baby turns three months old. See how she later manages to put her dearly loved career on hold in order to spend more time with her daughter.
The adjustment!
Meet South African radio host and author Sam Cowen, in an excerpt from her book Waiting for Christopher, as she offers a humorous account of the "I'll breastfeed myself out of a job" fears associated with maternity leave-- and wanting to "take [being pregnant] like a man".
The joy!
Meet Sadaf Shamshad from New York in "There Is No Place Like Home," as she explains why choosing to give up her hard-earned, "swanky job" for the less-glamorous position of full-time stay-at-home mom was the best decision she ever made. Even without her own mother’s approval!
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How do women make the difficult choices in balancing both work and family? Can women really be “Super Moms” and juggle diapers, deadlines and dinner? Some women choose to stay at home and be around their children, but what about those women who don’t have that luxury of choice?
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Posted on Tuesday, June 19, 2007 8:40 AM
Mother is the architect of her child, Comming from a developing country where there are no diapers, no water in taps, economic problems, an oppressive culture and a bad marriage, i raised my only child, (mine was a bad child birth, it was a uterus rupture). I had to have a job for food and shelter. I went through extreme conditions, with hope for me and my daughter. I lived through guilt for not being there for my child when she needed me most, i went home without anyone's permission to breast feed my child and sneeked back to work.
Every child understands the language of its mother, and that language is love, if you can balance care and work just to sustain, then you can be a super mom, mothers have to understand that your priority is the child's needs, money to sustain is what is needed, not more than that. I picked up my career when my child went to school and went back to school when she needed me less and less, There are big questions that we need to answer the small minds especially during harsh financial times but answering them based on the child's mental makeup is important, the child constantly needs to hear that he/she is loved more hence you choose the child more to other things of life.
Reality is harsh, but believe me it teaches only the right things, Helping your child walk through reality is the best lesson a mother can teach the child. Child grow to be confident and are in touch with their own self. They turn out better human beings.
Holding a job gives home stability, lessons of balance, lessons on economy, and a sense of self, A confident mother can build a confident child no matter what the conditions are. |
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Posted on Tuesday, June 19, 2007 8:24 AM
Career is always enchanting and after staying at home for 10 months with my daughter, I re-started my career for my own advancement, always making sure that I do not waste my time commuting, and my work place is near her place of care. However, after the birth of the second one, I thought, may be I would be able to stay and work from home. I did not have the heart to put him in the day care so early. And now, he is 5 months, and I realize I cannot manage both. I need to spend time with him in his waking hours - talk, teach and play with him. And my daughter needs me too. Having a husband who keeps busy and can support our family, I realized, I should not aim at being selfish and think of advancing my own career to leave our family life in jeopardy. We have to work as a team. One person earning the bread and other giving un-conditional attention to run the whole family.
The journey to this decusion has been a roller-coaster ride, but finally, I am confident that I would be satisfied. The centuries old - maternal nurturing instinct, the instinct to provide, care and be available would prevail over the fast-paced career. The support from my husband is tremendous. As he always puts it, its not his career advancement, its our advancement, not only his promotions, but mine too. And I am happier, my professional licenses would be in use once again after a few years. Will I have the heart then? Well, only time will tell. |
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Posted on Tuesday, June 19, 2007 8:11 AM
Good to read the hard work of your wife in being the man of the house, and at the same time being the women to nurture and love, i believe that if a woman can be both even man can be both, perhaps she has taught you to like her, now that you know what it is to recieve its time to give in life, and care for others, it must be very hard to live without her, living like her is the only way to keep her alive within you! |
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Posted on Tuesday, June 19, 2007 1:07 AM
it is very hard, but I did it when I was a full time PhD student, mum,weife,it beacome harder when I Planned to get my second baby. all freinds and family called me a super mum. the key in my life was my husband without hime i would not do it. |
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Posted on Tuesday, June 19, 2007 1:07 AM
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