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A Day in the Life
Waking up the children, vacuuming the home, looking over homework, a trip to the market, sharing naps and Sesame Street…

All in a day’s work! Mothers world over multitask. But what if in addition to all this they have to struggle to survive? What if every day means not knowing how you can provide your children with a safe home and stable future?

Meet Ruth Natasha from Nigeria who gives us a glimpse into her thoughts as an HIV positive mother. Read Suzanna Camil Ali’s account of her life as a Palestinian mother at the Al’Azzah refugee camp in Bethlehem. As she goes about her day safety, politics and housework all have a part to play. See Justyna Mielnikiewicz’s striking images of Eka’s life. Eka, a half Georgian, half Russian mother struggles to make ends meet for her family.

What is a day in your life like? Tell us your story.
Amy Oyekunle
MODERATOR
Nigeria
It was not so long ago I took ‘time’ for granted. Now, as a mother, wife, up and coming career woman I earnestly long for more time. Time to be with my children, take care of the house, finish my work, time to relax....but more importantly, time to be ME! I don’t know about you but a day just doesn’t seem to be enough anymore.

I invite you to join the conversation and share your experiences about a typical day in your life.


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Lourdes Segade – Eve Photographers
Spain
Posted on Tuesday, December 04, 2007 9:40 AM
hello, lichum! this is lourdes. i am a photographer and i am not the same woman that appears in the images i took. i am not even a mother (though i want to be one when the moment comes).
however lorena, the protagonist of my story, is a wonderful woman and a great mom, as you say.
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Lichum Yanthan
India
Posted on Thursday, June 14, 2007 12:59 AM
For Lourdes,

Dear Lourdes, you must be a wonderful woman and a mother. I appreciate your way of living, your struggle and your determination to be a good mother. Besides your physical disability, you are doing the greatest thing and giving the greatest honour to your child. No matter what overtakes your life always take good care of your child and let him know that there is always someone who cares for us no matter what we are or who we are. I have one kid. He is fifteen months old, but I could not take care of him like many mother could do. I love him so much but time & job has stolen my precious time away from him. I work in a private firm where I am suppose to work 7:00 hours (from 9:00am till 4:00pm). So I hardly have time to take care of my only son. When I read your story I was so overwhelmed. I believe that every mother sacrifices for their children even at the most difficult situation. I know I can't give you anythiny or I can never meet you yet, I pray that God our Almight will guide you all throught out your entire journey

From, Lichum,
Kohima, Nagaland
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Marina Maller
United States
Posted on Saturday, June 09, 2007 1:56 PM
For Ioana,

I'm another inmigrant and when I read yur posting it was like hearing myself in the first couple of years after we moved here. Inmigration is a long and very hard path, especially when you left a loving family in your country of origin.

My advise is to get the right support: friends, counseling, neighbors, whoever that is out there that makes you feel better. It might take some time but keep looking for women that make you feel comfortable, their faces might look different and they might speak differently than the friends and family you left behind, but if they make you feel god, they're the right ones. Don't settle for less! (If you can afford it, get a babysitter or a cleaning person. Even if it is once per month, consider it an investment in your mental health)

It's OK to miss your family, your country and your city, it took me a while to realize that I was actually missing who *I* was in my country. It's a process, you're not supposed to feel great now, just because you arrived to America, no matter what people here tell you (or people there tell you ("You're so lucky, you must be exctatic!"), you have the right to feel whatever you'r feeling!

It might take you some time to decide the best way to adapt to the new country, but remember that you don't have to make a decision right away about what to keep the same and what to take from the new culture. Feel free, experiment, you're not betraying your roots/culture/background when you decide that apple sauce tastes even better than the one you had in the old country.

Just a couple of thoughts that I'm not even sure if will help you, I wish I could be there and just give you a big hug and tell you what a friend told me when I arrived here: "Hold on there, couple of years from now, things are going to be 100% better".

Marina
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Rachel Sarah
United States
Posted on Monday, May 21, 2007 9:44 AM
Ruth,
I wanted to thank you from across the globe for your amazing, bold story. Your daughter is blessed to have you.
xo,
Rachel
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Rachel Sarah
United States
Posted on Monday, May 21, 2007 9:43 AM
Amy,
I wanted to thank you from across the globe for your amazing, bold story. Your daughter is blessed to have you.
xo,
Rachel
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Amy Oyekunle
Nigeria
Posted on Wednesday, May 16, 2007 11:25 AM
Mother's day has come and gone. We were able to honor our mothers, and be honored as mothers. It is great to know that one day is put aside every year o honor women who do and mean so much. Judging from the wonderful stories, mother's should be honored everyday ....I think!!

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Susie Palmer
United States
Posted on Tuesday, May 15, 2007 10:40 PM
Let eveything that you do be done with Love

1 Corinthians 16;14
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shamini chandraprakash
Malaysia
Posted on Sunday, May 13, 2007 8:16 AM
Here's something for all mothers in the world:-

A mom...
Is God's love in action,
She looks with her heart,
And feels with her eyes.

She is the bank where the children
deposit all their worries and hurt.

A mom...
Is the cement that keeps her family together,
And her love lasts a lifetime.

Happy Mother's Day To All.
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Amy Oyekunle
Nigeria
Posted on Saturday, May 12, 2007 2:24 AM
Yes, dear ladies whatever angle you look at it, being a woman is special. whether you choose to become a mother bearing your own children or taking care of other peoples. I started appreciating my mum when I had my own kids, I always wondered how she managed with five kids mostly on her own.But like Priyam said in her comment, you get the energy to cope with the situation at hand and pray that your kids grow up fast enough to help with the housework :).

Mother's day is an excellent opportunity to tell my mum I really appreciate her for nurturing and bringing up the finest kids in the world (her words exactly!). She stays far away and sometimes wish she was nearby but I'd let her know in other ways... A PHONECALL should do it.

So ladies, when thinking about a typical day in your life take the time to appreciate that special woman in your life.

Happy Mother's day to all mothers all over the world
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mary mutupa
Zambia
Posted on Friday, May 11, 2007 11:18 AM
Motherhood sometimes l think of it as art you know.women deserve to be appreciated and encouraged coz they do alot of work.one thing about having to care for a child and see her/him grow gives a mother great joy.
l have been a young mother of two children that are not of my own but my sister's but orphened and l have been keeping these children for the last five years and l can say that its not that easy but its a Blessing to see them happy after l provide for them.its been very stressful and demanding as a young woman but l have grown to love them and l work hard to make sure that they have all they need and have a smile like every child with both parents aroud.To all the mothers out there HAPPY MOTHER's day.
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mary mutupa
Zambia
Posted on Friday, May 11, 2007 11:16 AM
her parents aroud.To all the mothers l wish you well and HAPPY MOTHER's day
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shamini chandraprakash
Malaysia
Posted on Friday, May 11, 2007 8:22 AM
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO ALL MOTHERS.
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chika ekwugha
Nigeria
Posted on Friday, May 11, 2007 5:39 AM
as a single lady, working and schooling in a foreign country, i see my world as a reflection of several things: at sometime, i'm glad to be able to pursue my dreams and aspirations alone because i'm not encumbered with family and especially, children, but at other times, i wonder if it would have been worth the while to have them: even if they'ld retard my drive, at least, they surely would be some form of consolation to me when times get rough.
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Gifty Dzah
Ghana
Posted on Friday, May 11, 2007 5:05 AM
Mother, Mothering, Motherhood... I always say women are blessed which ever of these three they are.
Like Mary mentioned it is not easy to be all these and more in a day especially considering all the other work women do but I always believe that when your shoulders hurt not because you have carried things but becuase you feel stressed out... just let go, you dont have to get your blood pressure up or down because you want to out do or over work yourself out.
A night out, eating out, putting your feet up and watching the TV too or going to the pool... helps so much.
For Mothers day: I say to all Mums "Ayikoo"(Ewe dialect in Ghana :meaning congratulations), You deserve more because you are so invaluable, nothing measures to you!
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mary mutupa
Zambia
Posted on Thursday, May 10, 2007 10:30 AM
one of the things l know by now is that its not very easy but one can work out a plan on how to live a balanced life that of a career woman, mother and a wife depending on what kind of a job that you have.is it a job that allow you to have enough time for your family or you can not do anything to have atleast a little time for your family.l think that a woman is Blessed so much that l think of us women as great managers,organizers winners and more.
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Paula Goldman, Director of Imagining Ourselves
United States
Posted on Thursday, May 10, 2007 10:21 AM
The International Museum of Women is proud to host its first Mother’s Day Photo Contest! http://www.flickr.com/groups/imaginingourselves/

With Mother’s Day just around the corner in many parts of the world, why not take a moment to pay tribute to an extraordinary mother in your life by taking her photo or capturing an intimate moment you witnessed on this special day.

We are looking for original and striking images depicting motherhood and what Mother’s Day means to you. We encourage entries from all corners of the world, in both rural and urban settings. We expect to receive images that represent motherhood, maternity, pregnancy, mother relationships and everything in between. Your image need not be taken on Mother's Day, but if you have the opportunity, why not take advantage of it?

Ten winners will receive a free copy of the Imagining Ourselves book, will be featured in a special Mother's Day Tribute section of this exhibit, and may also be featured on our "Motherhood Today!" celebrity blog on Yahoo! Health (http://blogs.health.yahoo.com/intlwomen).

For more information, and to join, visit the contest at: http://www.flickr.com/groups/imaginingourselves/

Happy Mother's Day!!
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shamini chandraprakash
Malaysia
Posted on Thursday, May 10, 2007 9:31 AM
Liz, being a mother is something I really love. I do not mind waking up my two children at 6 o'clock in the morning, get them ready to school, give them breakfast, send them to school, then I go to work, pick them up after school, give them lunch, look into their homework, send them for tuition and music classes, do some revision with them, feed them dinner and with all these....clean the house, cook for them, fold and iron the clothes and the list goes on and on...My husband works 12 hours a day, travels daily to his working place which takes about 1 hour. I do not expect him to help me a lot with the chores. I do most of the things at home.

Life is busy and I enjoy myself spending time with my children. No doubt that sometimes, I myself feel very tired and could not cope with the work load, but then who is going to question you when you do not cook for the day or you do not fold the clothes? Take things one at a time. I feel that it is wrong to blame the children when we are stressed or depressed. Try not to put the blame on the children. It's we; the mothers should be blamed for not being able to cope with things.

Our children are too young to understand what we go through. Sometimes, small children do not understand when we tell them that we are tired. Anyway, as a parent, I think we can educate them to help us with the little things at home, yunno things like washing the plates after a meal, tidy up the room and to keep the toys after playing.

Things will be daunting if you want everything to be perfect and worry too much of little things. Hei...enjoy life and let the children enjoy their childhood. Have a cup of coffee in front of the TV, watching your favourite programme after your children go to sleep, or read a book or magazine...or login into IMOW(It's 12.30 a.m. in my country when I type this comment. My children and husband are fast asleep). We can release our stress by reading and sharing our experiences. You'll be surprised to see that there are common things among all the women when it comes to being a mom...a good mom!!!
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ioana novac
Romania
Posted on Thursday, May 10, 2007 8:55 AM
Since I wrote the story for the "A Day in a Live" section for this amazing exhibit, there were so many changes in my family's live. My husband was send as a foreign correspondent to US and his contract extended for too long. He was not around when Luca smiled for the first time, when he walked with little help, etc. And I decided that, the most important thing in our live is family. I do strongly believe that a child should grow by having both of his parents aside (of course if they still love each other and want to share the joy of having a baby). So, we packed our bags and joined my husband to New York.

Although we lived in NY before and loved the city so much, this time I felt overwhelmed with problems. “How healthy is it to raise a baby in such a big city? Dirt, smog, noise, way to many cars, and noise again…” It is so difficult to find a park to walk Luca quietly, even Central Park (with is huge) is crowded on weekend. Beside this, I have nobody here to help me out from time to time with Luca. And there are so many differences when is about raising a baby here, comparing to the quiet, old fashioned Romania. Beside this, 100% natural, organic food for the little one is almost a luxury. All this cultural differences….And believe me, I’m trying so hard to face all this challenges. I’m doing fine, Luca is happy, we are OK to be all together here, but I can’t stop myself thinking about home, my parents who miss their grandchild and about everything we love over there.

Is anybody else torn between two worlds, with so many differences? How do you do it? I would love o read other mothers experiences and advises.

Best wishes to all of you and Happy Mother’s Day!
Ioana Novac

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Amy Oyekunle
Nigeria
Posted on Thursday, May 10, 2007 7:04 AM
I agree wholeheartedly with Liz that trying to be 100% in everything especially being a mother, having a career is DAUNTING. I used to feel so depressed when I couldn't do it all....sort of like a failure. But a very wise woman told me 'Amy, sometimes you have got to let the house be dirty ..a little dirt won't kill you but the stress and worry you put yourself through just might'. She told me you have to pay for your time, get help...get the convenience of modernity i.e. washing machine etc (still don't have one) :) but I took all that on board and I'm happy to say that (no my house is not dirty) but I've stopped trying to outdo myself and be 'perfect' cause they ain't no such thing. You just hav to enjoy your time with the little ones be the best you can but don't be afraid to say 'you know what I need a break'.

I feel lucky and blessed for that piece of wisdom. I must say I am one of the fortunate ones. Do you know how many women (young mothers) are ticking time-bombs walking around with high blood pressure because of the enournous pressure society and perharps they put on themselves?

Again, I appreciate the fact that I have a very supportive and understanding family and friends. Happy mother's day everyone!
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Liz Steketee
United States
Posted on Wednesday, May 09, 2007 9:52 AM
I am wondering about how all you mothers out there feel about trying to do it all. By that I mean, being a mother, working, keeping the house clean, everyone fed, clothed, and still trying to find time for yourself. I find it next to impossible to do it all, and honestly wonder if it can be done without some price being paid? I am just looking for honest assessments of how others in similar positions REALLY feel about the modern condition of being a mother. Opportunities abound in my world, but putting myself in 100% to everything seems daunting. I keep trying anyway. Anyone else?
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