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Ecaterina Marshall
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In an age when even pre-schoolers know how to use Google, Skype, YouTube and so many other fancy technical innovations, 529,000 mothers die every year either during pregnancy or in or after labor. The majority of these deaths have been preventable for years. 99 percent of these deaths happen in developing countries.

Motherhood experiences vary not only in different countries, but between different socio-economic groups within one nation. The availability or lack of professional health care, medical insurance, social networks, labor legislation - so many things make having a baby so difficult in some places and a bit easier in others.

Share with us your thoughts and views on what makes motherhood different in your country, city, or community.
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PATRICIA LUEVANO
Mexique
Posted on Tuesday, March 13, 2007 2:16 PM
Tengo 36 años, tengo 2 hijos y un triste aborto, fue mi primer hijo, y no olvido ese triste día cuando lo perdí. Les cuento mi historia, me casé de 29, quería embarazarme pronto pero no sucedía, pasó el tiempo y nada, pero tuve un retrazo y feliz fui a checarme, lo triste, es que no era un hijo lo que esperaba, era un tumor el que tenía, y más cuando me dijo el dr. que tenía que extraermelo porque podría ser canceroso, era grande y con medicamento no era ya posible de deshaserlo, me operaron, y mi temor era no embarazarme por ese motivo, pero tuve la dicha al poco tiempo de esperar mi primer hijo, pero lo perdí al poquito tiempo solo estuvo en mi vientre 6 semanas, para mí ha sido lo más triste que me ha pasado y sigue siendo, pero afortunadamente Diosito me dió otros dos hijitos, y estoy feliz por ello. A las mujeres que han pasado por esto les deseo que sean fuertes. Ahora en mí país que es México, están pidiendo que se legalice el aborto, el cual estoy en rotundo desacuerdo, es negarle la vida a un ser que empieza a vivir, y nadie es nadie para quitársela, yo como madre y que pasó por ese lamentable suceso, pido a todas las mujeres que en este momento piensan hacerlo, meditenlo antes de cometer un asesinato. Dígamosle un SI A LA VIDA,denle una oportunidad de vida no se la nieguen tiene direcho. Y a todas las mujeres que están en tratamiento de infertilidad, póngales todas las ganas para que lo logren y si no lo han logrado, denle la oportunidad a un chico(a) de adoptarlo, tendrán muchas satisfacciones al final y dará la oportunidad de ser feliz a un pequeño(a).
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Posted on Monday, March 12, 2007 11:50 PM
I will turn 33 this year.
It has now been 3 and a half years since I became a mother.
Through the process of my pregnancy and the birth of my child I had been conflicted about my work life. But as the days seem to pass I realize how important it is for a mother to actually be there for the first few years of her growing child.
Not to contest the choice of when to have a kid.
As a child my mom did not have an opportunity to spend her time with me and I was left in the care of my grandmother. India did not have the growth choices it does in terms of jobs and salaries.
Not a day passes in my life where I imagine the invisible bond that could have existed between my mom and me. I lost out on building friendship and intimacy with my mom for many years. There can not be a substitute for a mother.
Becoming a mother has really encouraged me to look at life from her eyes and understand the circumstances and the choices she took.
Today she respects me for being a stay at home mom just I respect her.
My partner and I have made a turning decision by coming back to our country after completing our masters from States. And it is here back in my country where we are balancing life with only one of us working.
Yet for women who actually are scared of being mothers I have got this to say- It is and always be a metamorphic decision but one of life's most rewarding lesson.
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Ecaterina Marshall
MODÉRATEUR
Posted on Monday, March 12, 2007 6:23 AM
I agree that at least in the West there is some sort of pressure on women "not to be a mother". Just yesterday I had a conversation with 2 female friends of mine - both young European professionals, happily married, currently based in the US. Having a child for them means being off the labor market at least for several months which is unacceptable luxury these days. Grandmas and grandpas don’t want and can’t afford staying home with kids like in the old days, daycare is expensive (if you can think of leaving your newborn with a stranger), so what do you do? Right, stay home with your kid at least for 6 months. (And how many employers have a 6 months long maternity leave?) What happens when you decide to go back to work? Your position is already taken by someone else. Does anyone want to share how they made their career-child choice?
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Posted on Monday, March 12, 2007 4:12 AM
Motherhood is indeed a blessing but ignorance and poverty has caused it be a pain in many developing countries and poor homes. I grew up in a middle-class family in Nigeria and had all the love and attention i needed. I married just at the right time at 26 (before I am left on the shelf) but had my baby, late at 29! There is so much pressure to fit into the status quo. It is possible that because I had a Masters and was well educated, I was confident in my choices of motherhood. However, due to poor access to healthcare many women still die during childbirth. Education is the key. It will need a re-orientation that the health of a mother is paramount for the society to give motherhood the desired attention it needs. It will also take an educated womenfolk to stand up for what is right for them.
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Dima Fanek
Jordanie
Posted on Saturday, March 10, 2007 1:53 PM
Motherhood is a huge responsibility in life, and it's actually a blessing. But, what many people don't realize is the fact that not every woman in the world has that idea that it is a blessing. It is a sad reality how many women suffer from postnatal depression, and it's more than likely due to economical and social deficiencies.
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joi carruth
Etats Unis
Posted on Friday, March 09, 2007 8:31 AM
I am sure many do not realise or want to accept the fact the women do have these issues surrounding birth. I know when i found out I was pregnant and in the military, it was commonplace for a women,either sigle or married to get out of the military.I went from being part of a couple that brought in a significant portion of the finances to being a dependant. yes I was concerned and am sure it was well estabished within the house that I was unhappy with having to give up something I enjoyed. After my son was delivered, then it was mentioned that I wasn't handling being a mother well at all; there was little to no bonding with my son and I. see unlike my sisters ,who all experienced natural childbirth, I was a c-section..yes it was thrown up at me by sisters that I couldn't manage the simplest of natural things the right way. Add to that the fact I thought I had let my son down, even before we really knew each other.[ he was a large baby and guess who was unable to breast feed him.] I was pretty sure I had managed to pass alot of those feelings on to him. I was overseas for th efirst few months of his life. We had flown back to Germany after he had been exposed to chickenpox..yes he came down with them and the temp that went along with them. Then there was thrush, it was driven into his system by lack of proper care on the part of the hospital. I can't count the number of times I have apologized to my son, for not being the mom he needed and deserved[ hes now 29 with a family of his own].
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Simone Honikman
Afrique du Sud
Posted on Friday, March 09, 2007 5:41 AM
I don't think most people realise how frequently women experience emotional distress before and after pregnancy. When I heard that 1 in 3 women suffer with postnatal depression in a poor township of Cape Town, I was appalled. As a doctor who has mostly worked with women in the primary health setting, I needed to ask, "What are we doing about this?"

Someone has to take responsibility for addressing this massive epidemic of suffering. The silence enshrouding mental health problems perpetuates the problem. We have shown that being a teenager, poverty, lack of a supportive partner, abuse and violence in the home all place women at high risk. Health care providers are obliged to respond. Mental health professionals and maternal health workers must get together.

I have had the privilige of the opportunity to develop a mental health service within an obstetric facility in the public health system in Cape Town, South Africa. Please see the stories featured here of Bavi, our psychiatrist, "The Hidden Side of Motherhood" and of Gloria, one of our clients, "Speaking and Being Heard".

We have screened over 3500 women and have offered free counselling to a third of them. We have learnt so much from these women and their experiences. Please contact me if you'd like to know more.

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Rowena Dacsig
Philippines
Posted on Friday, March 09, 2007 12:46 AM
Boundaries are not what defines the role of the mother. It is for every aspect in the life of her children and husband. It is even beyond time and neither bounded by limits on what the mother can do for the welfare of her children. Every rugged road filled with thorns is not what it seems to be but rather takes things smoothly in order to reach the goal, only to give what is best of what is available.
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Olive Paraiso
Philippines
Posted on Thursday, March 08, 2007 5:25 PM
Mothers are silent makers of peace, a liar when she doe not want to hurt you, aa spnge to absorb your thoughts, a pail to carry your tears, a blanket to cover you from cold, mirror to show the best things in you, a hero who is scared but continue on to shield you.
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joi carruth
Etats Unis
Posted on Thursday, March 08, 2007 12:52 PM
having been born and raised in the United States I left home at the age of 18, bound for the military. I have been fortunate enough to able to live in a variety of places. During this time I also raised two young children. I taught them to live as they were raised, take nothing for granted and always make sure to get both sides of anything before they made a sound decision. They have grown to become very responsible men of the world. they can travek anywhere and be able to handle themselves as the strong men I raised. I have also been afforded the chance to be in a position to be able to help now with my grandchildren. my son and his wife are raising them to be strong ,thinking and compassionate people who will one day be a part of the world they will inherit. I was also fortunate in that I had my grandparents close by as I grew up. That is something i want from my grandchildren,as I will be able to pass along my heritage...something no child should grow up without. You need to learn from the past to be able to embrace and mold the future.
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Yuliya Galimova
Posted on Thursday, March 08, 2007 11:33 AM
Being brought up in he eastern country with strong "family" values (originally i am from the Islamic Republic of Bashkortostan) I am nowadays living in the UK.
It is absolutely right that the social and economical pressure on young women is high...however, to my mind, really strong and idependent woman can be able to resist the "mainstreem" and run her own life gaining worthful things and being truly successful in motherhood or in her carreer (whatever is the most important for her self-identity).
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Mel Baxter
Royaume Uni
Posted on Thursday, March 08, 2007 10:47 AM
I feel that the pressure on young women in the UK is NOT to have a baby. We're constantly being told how much young mothers 'cost' society, and are under huge amounts of pressure to 'succeed' in every other before we consider being mothers. I'm 26 and feel that something's missing from my life. I know that by trying harder at work, or by booking that next trip abroad, really I'm just searching for something... Something that I'm pretty certain I won't find until I'm a mother.
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Tania Alsayyid
Canada
Posted on Thursday, March 08, 2007 9:46 AM
Being a mother has been very rewarding as well as challenging. A mother of 2 children who will be entering their "pre teens",as I am told keeps me very busy.I am not only a mother but a friend,doctor,teacher,coach & psychologist all rolled into one.
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Yuliya Galimova
Posted on Thursday, March 08, 2007 9:22 AM
Woman is able to give birth... and this is something that worth experience at least once in your life.
However this does not necessarily mean that the priority choice should be nothing but motherhood for every woman.
No one can make you to be a mother if you don't want to: phisically a new human being can be born by you but that will not automatically make you a mother in the philosophical sense...
Only in case if motherhood is your contiously made choice that will bring you inspiration to create and a great feedback for progress as a philosophically thinking personality...nevertheless this is not that every woman is seeking for.
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Valeria Guido-Taylor
Canada
Posted on Thursday, March 08, 2007 8:42 AM
Having recently married, I find myself on a path to motherhood and family life. But I can't help but question the concept of family, and if we all have a natural inclination towards motherhood. Personally, I believe I bear a natural yearning for motherhood, but, I increasingly feel that motherhood is a dimension of womanhood. I love my mother for everything she has given me as my mother, but wonder in admiration at everything she sacrificed, as a woman. A woman can be multidimensional too, and if certain dimensions take priority over others, that is her right as a person.
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Yuliya Galimova
Posted on Thursday, March 08, 2007 8:35 AM
The motherhood is something that's giving the greatest ever sense to your life. Once giving a birth makes you be immortal forever...
Maybe it is too patetic...maybe too poetic...maybe too romantic and ideal...but that's what i feel when i think about the whole universe sleeping in my arms being proud to duard the peace around my child...
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Arik Dao
Vietnam
Posted on Wednesday, March 07, 2007 8:34 PM
I am a guy and I don't have kids so my comments on this issue will have limited value. For what it is worth, I live in Silicon Valley California and I think the real challenge for mothers I know are balancing their work demands with the challenges of child rearing. Work environments are not always optimal for mothers. My cubemate is a mother who breast feeds her child. At the moment, or company does not provide facilities where she can pump. I have to lock myself out of our office so that she can have privacy. It is an inconvenience for both of us, but I actually don't mind. It gives me an excuse to go get coffee downtown.
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stephanie do
Etats Unis
Posted on Wednesday, March 07, 2007 8:08 PM
I am not a mother, but someday I will be. I am comfortable with idealizing the moment and hoping that it will actually happen before I turn 35 and before my reproductive organs begin to rot. I am surrounded by people who are comfortable with how they live. I am not blinded by societal pressures to have a family or these pressures basically don't exist at all for me.

My family comes from a developing country and I'm used to hearing that: I have 8 aunts / 2 uncles and 7 aunts / 3 uncles (mother and father side respectively). Motherhood changes with time and economics and the combination of the two or other factors that I neglect to include. Vietnam is still a developing country. They still need more babies to work the farm, but they also have individuals migrating to the cities. My father's siblings in Vietnam has a mix of both. I don't even know why I included this family aspect, it must have been the quick thought to appreciate the ladies who are mothers..other than that, my distant family and my immediate family have no influence on how or when I have kids.

Another thought - Let's pretend I'm pseudo-popular and have 100 or 10 close friends. 1% is ready to have a kid, 20% could consider marriage or already doing so, 30% could consider being in a relationship, 30% are miserable because they're single, 10% date regularly, and 9% are happy being single. I over/underexaggerated the stats because you can't really prove anything. Apparently motherhood or fatherhood is not top priority among my circle. Grad school, financial wealth, home ownership and retirement is. I do enjoy hanging out with babies or puppies every now and then. I can barely tidy up after myself. Ask my boss and roommate.

I'm 26-going on 27 and currently living ma vie boheme and can not relate at all to the subject.

To continue the moderators comments, since I forgot that a conversation usually corresponds to someone else's comments - there is a lack of professional health care and all that - but you wonder, aren't these individuals just exchanging opinions? Have these individuals or women in particular taken the step to vote / to mobilize for these measures? or Are they annoyed with the individuals in their government who can't seem to get their shit done correctly?
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Luz Sanchez
Mexique
Posted on Wednesday, March 07, 2007 6:11 PM
I am a mother of two small children and am 29 years old. I live in Mexico City though spent some time in the US. I am lucky. I watch some of the young mothers in Mexico City, the ones who are 16 and 17 and have kids already and I can only imagine what their life is like. I waited to have kids. I went to college. I made choices about that. When I got pregnant, I only thought, "Will it be a boy or girl?" (I have one of each). I never thought, "Will I have a doctor?" I never thought about the risk of bleeding to death in childbirth like in the story on Lifewraps. So I'm the lucky one.
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Ecaterina Marshall
MODÉRATEUR
Posted on Wednesday, March 07, 2007 2:11 PM
I was 25 when I came to the United States almost 5 years ago for graduate study. At this age women in my home country – Moldova – typically already are married and have at least one child. Back home I was almost “off the market”. Men seemed to be suspicious of the girls who did not chase them for marriage and had other interests. In New York I was too young to get married and have kids. I loved it.

Five years later I am married and have a 7 month old baby. Every time when we take our baby girl to her pediatrician, I keep thinking that we are still young – comparatively speaking. As we were the youngest couple at the labor preparation course. As we are among the youngest parents among other couples walking on weekends with a stroller downtown Old Alexandria or Georgetown in DC.

Frankly, after these seven months of sleepless nights I don’t feel that young. And I keep thinking – man, what would my life be like if I had a baby when most girls back home do - at 19-20 years of age? What would it be if I went mainstream US and postponed pregnancy until I turned 35-40?

If you are a mother, plan to be one or, on the contrary, do not intend “to go through all this”, or if you are a neighbor watching some mother from your window every day – what is a mother’s life like for you? What would it be if some things were different? What if she was single? Or unemployed? Or had a Master’s degree instead of dropping out of high school? ...What if she were pregnant in a rural village with no access to medical care, like so many women in the world? What if she had a high risk of dying during childbirth like so many women still do, even though it's preventable?
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